ruby’s tuesday | the joy of missing out
posted: January 14, 2014
goodbye FOMO, hello JOMO
In my old life, as an editor on a glossy fashion magazine, attending celebrity parties went with the territory. Each week the invitations would pile up—a dinner with Marc Jacobs, cocktails with Scarlett Johansson, a movie premiere, a fancy store opening. Forever changing into something sparkly in the ladies room at work, my diary was full and I felt part of the London scene. In short, my ego was stoked. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) was not in my vocabulary.
Ruby, in her former life at a Lady Gaga fragrance event
Of course, I was well aware that the invites weren’t for “me” exactly—they were for the magazine. But when I went freelance two years ago and it all dropped off a cliff, it was hard not to take it personally that my name no longer appeared to be on “the list.” I’d read about all the events I used to attend feeling a mixture of disappointment and envy. I was still writing for all those magazines; didn’t my face “fit” anymore? What networking opportunities were passing me by? Surely I should have been there when Kate Moss sang karaoke too?
But when The Huffington Post last week declared 2014 to be the year of JOMO—the Joy of Missing Out—I realized how far I’ve come since then.
Defined, in part, as a reaction against FOMO, with JOMO people are “exploring a new shift where staying home is the new going out in terms of satisfying what we want and being honest about who and what is truly important to us,” explained self-proclaimed “happiness activist” Susie Pearl.
This describes my personal situation very neatly. In the same two years I’ve not been dressing up in Chanel and living on canapé dinners, I’ve had a lot more time to focus on the activities and people that feed my soul as opposed to my ego. And if JOMO is a study in mindfulness—being fully aware that I am not “supposed” to be anywhere but here right now, then adopting a steady yoga and meditation practice has undoubtedly given me the tools to witness the difference.
If anything, the scale has tipped in the opposite direction. Maybe it’s because it’s so cold out, but when an email did ping into my inbox this morning, inviting me to the celebrity-studded launch of Stella McCartney’s A/W14 collection, all I could think about were the final two episodes of the Homelands box set I’ve been working my way through. Missing out on what happens with Brody and Carrie? Not for anybody.
The new Ruby, liberated from FOMO
Whether it’s interviewing Lady Gaga, unveiling the latest trends in fashion, or getting under the skin of our most neurotic social trends, Ruby Warrington is at the forefront of it all. She’s a British lifestyle writer, the celebrated creator of the blog The Numinous, and a regular contributor to the lululemon blog.